Blogging for LGBT Families Day 2010: A Baby in the Works
Ashley and I are both writing this post as a part of the “Blogging for LGBT Families Day 2010″ which you can read more about at Mombian.
So, a baby in the works… Ashley and I have started considering our options for acquiring a child. I say acquiring because we have talked some about this in the past and never come to a definite solution about how we would go about having a family. More recently we have both expressed interest in having at least one child and having it in the not so distant future.
We have narrowed the options down to some sort of adoption or one of us (ahem, Mandi) having the baby. We by far prefer option two for financial, legal, and personal reasons. I, Mandi, do have an inclination towards going through the pregnancy and birth. (Don’t give me that look.) If we choose this option, we would most likely purchase from a sperm bank. We have looked at a few options and were very surprised at the ease of the selection process.
There are several things that we would want to get in order before we jump into motherhood, but want to get some advice on the subject now and do lots of research. We are open to any suggestions that you have for us!
Have you two considered a state adoption? There are plenty of children of all ages. The cost is minimal, and the benefits are descent. The plus is the childs college is paid for. Just an idea.
Jamie,
We had initially preferred adopting over having our own because there are so many children out there that need homes but unfortunately right now we still live in Florida and a state adoption isn’t an option here. It is specified in the Florida Statutes:
63.042 Who may be adopted; who may adopt.
(3) No person eligible to adopt under this statute may adopt if that person is a homosexual.
This is one of the primary reasons we are trying to leave Florida.
I think there is nothing like getting pregnant and having your own baby. It would be great to adopt as well, but I think you will miss the being pregnant and delivery experience. Plus someone needs to carry on the Titus name! Right?
That is right! Titus has to go somewhere. We are leaning towards getting knocked up and birthing but still open for ideas.